Grief is never easy — but for children, it can be especially confusing. They may not have the words for what they feel, or the tools to understand what goodbye truly means. Yet even in their quietness, children notice absence deeply.
At Treasured in Memory, we believe that children deserve simple, honest ways to process loss — and meaningful ways to remember.
How Children Grieve
Children often grieve in waves. One moment they’re asking questions, the next they’re back to playing. They might express sadness through behaviour, not words. That’s why it’s so important to give them space, reassurance, and safe ways to stay connected to the person they’ve lost.
Gentle Ways to Support a Child in Grief
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Speak openly and kindly. Use clear language. Avoid “they’ve gone to sleep” or “we lost them.” Simple honesty builds trust.
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Answer questions — even the repeated ones. Grief isn’t a one-time conversation.
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Let them participate. Whether it’s lighting a candle, choosing a photo for the program, or drawing a picture for the casket, small acts give them agency.
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Offer a keepsake. Something they can touch, hold, or revisit.
Keepsakes for Young Hearts
We offer a small collection of gentle items to help children feel connected — even after goodbye:
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Memory Boxes for Kids: A special place for drawings, letters, or items that remind them of the person they loved.
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Story-based Remembrance Journals: Simple, age-appropriate prompts to help children talk about their feelings and capture memories in their own words.
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Photo Frames & Soft Keepsake Items: Something comforting to keep close — a framed photo beside the bed or a printed message tucked into a drawer.
You can find these in our Keepsake Shop, carefully selected with children’s needs in mind.
When Grief Feels Bigger
Sometimes, grief feels like too much — for adults and children alike. If you feel your child is deeply withdrawn, unusually angry, or not coping well over time, it’s okay to seek extra help. A counsellor, teacher, or faith leader may offer additional support.
Remembering Together
More than anything, children need to know that the person they loved won’t be forgotten. At Treasured in Memory, our digital memorials allow families to create a lasting space where children can revisit stories, see photos, and contribute their own small tributes — even years later.
Because remembering shouldn’t end with the funeral. For a child, it’s only just beginning.
